Exclusive Q & A with Brent Smith

About Brent Smith

Brent Smith

(Naturally, we had to get a picture of him holding champagne.)

Frequent readers of this sub will know that Brent Smith is something of our very own yoda. His emphasis on building a whole lifestyle, from inner confidence on out to style and hosting parties, better than anyone paints the picture of what a smooth operator looks like in the 21st century.

While many so-called “pickup gurus” talk about lines and chasing women, Brent takes a different approach: he’d rather lay back and let women do the chasing.

Anyone who’s watched Brent’s material before knows that it’s always inspirational, insightful, and focused more on creating a lifestyle than learning a few lines.

You can check out his latest work at AttractHotterWomen.com and find him on social media here:

• Snapchat: brentlifestyle
• Instagram: brentsmithlifestyle
• Facebook: https://on.fb.me/1M4EIap
• Twitter: Brentlifestyle
• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/BrentSmithLifestyle

Recently, Brent took the time to answer some of our questions directly. Enjoy:

Questions and Answers

What do you do when you sit back and let the woman chase you, but she thinks you’re uninterested?

In general my advice is to let her go. If she won’t chase you, she’s not worth having in your life. However, if this is happening to you habitually, you’ll want to take a look at whether you’re “trying” to act like a guy who sits back or you “are” the guy who sits back. The former is forced and confusing and the latter is natural and sexy. There’s a difference and it has to do with your belief and “being it.” Acting can cause you to go over the top and give off a “you don’t have a chance with me” vibe. Do not reach out and try to rekindle it, it’s a slippery slope as I’ve said before.

Who were the people who most influenced your success, and how did they influence you?

My parents, actors/comedians/tv and movie characters and random guys I met throughout my life. James Bond, Monty Python, The Thomas Crown Affair, Animal House, James Woods, Bruce Willis, James Dean, Naked Gun Movies, the movie “Airplane,” “Wall Street,” “Indiana Jones.” All of these sources taught me to take over every room immediately, add value, give to give, act like you’ve been there before, do anything with enough authority and you’ll generally get away with it, be mysterious, indifferent, resourceful, know about the finer things in life, pay attention to detail, have a stronger reality, introduce people to each other, lead people, question authority, and be quick witted and banter. I mixed all of that up into my own recipe for greatness.

What are the mistakes men make when it comes to their fashion and style?

Buying what’s trendy and wearing it too long. Shopping where everyone else shops. Buying trendy clothes at department stores. Not seeking out smaller specialty stores and upcoming designers. Buying clothes that don’t fit and not getting them tailored. Being a trend follower instead of a trend setter. Buying great suits and wearing ugly shoes and a bad watch. Not knowing how to mix and match colors, textures, and patterns. Not taking enough fashion risks. I could go on and on…

What are your strategies for connecting with high profile / affluent people?

Find out where they hang out, both online and offline and then go there and hangout. Always approach them with some kind of value to add rather than trying to get something from them. Do your research and find out what their other interests are that you might have in common. Respect their time. Don’t go over the top and treat them too special or it will turn them off.

Could you share some of your most powerful “giving to give” experiences?

Buying everyone in the sushi restaurant saki and beer and another time secretly giving my card to the waitress and paying the bill for a random table of people having dinner and then leaving before they could thank me are two that come to mind. It’s not always about giving money. There have been several occasions where I’ve found a wallet or seen someone drop money and hand it back to them or send the wallet. I’ve had people offer me rewards and I’ve always turned them down. Giving to give doesn’t have to be something over the top. Every interaction you have (where you don’t want something) can be powerful. Smiling at someone walking the opposite way and continuing to walk can be powerful. Big gestures get the headlines but small things go a long way.

What convinced you that the effects of affirmations and visualizations were real?

I used to mess around with saying outlandish stuff and daydreaming about it and it started happening so I kept doing it to see if it would keep happening and it DID. I also became aware of how when I would say negative stuff and visualize the worst, then that would happen too. So, it started making sense that there was something powerful about my words, thoughts, and dreams. Then, I started running tons of manifesting experiments, had great success, and I became a true believer.

How did you incorporate your own story (affirmations and visualizations) into your routine when you started out?

When I started out I was all over the place and very disorganized and very ADD so there was no real routine. I would say my affirmations at random times and then just fantasize about them coming true. But my positive results were sporadic because I wasn’t managing my negative voice. So, imagine what you can do if you ARE organized and disciplined. Back then I didn’t even call it a “story,” that was later.

What tips do you have for guys who have never hosted a party or an afterparty before?

Some tips would depend on whether the party is being hosted at a bar/public venue or at your home/hotel room and some would be the same either way. It also depends on what type of people it’s for. My general tips would be: Start small, pick a theme, enlist your friends and pool your resources, psych yourself up, visualize it going well, be totally prepared for anything, details matter, greet everyone, connect people, make them feel comfortable, and keep moving around. Pay attention to music, lighting, and type of alcohol being served. And, most important of all, how could you take it to the next level and add things that would blow people away.

How do you deal with getting nervous?

Realize that your feelings are trying to trick you into believing that you’re powerless and be defiant against them. Also remind yourself that everyone around you is more screwed up than you are and you’re there to help them escape from their unhappy lives, so why would you be nervous around people like that? And, remove all “wanting to get” from your mind, which is what’s causing your anxiety, nervousness, and shyness in the first place. If you have to walk out of a place, take a moment, and then walk back in then do it. Reset yourself, psych yourself up, own the place! Lead people! It’s all about having fun and helping others have fun. The person who cares the least and has the strongest reality holds all the power.

How do you take your traditional lifestyle advice and apply it to success in business?

Everything I talk about applies to business. You show up powerfully by doing the opposite of what everyone else does. Thinking outside the box. Innovating beyond what others think is possible. Doing what others are unwilling to do. Giving up what others are unwilling to give up. Moving on from failure to the next thing without hesitation. Everything that happens is an opportunity to take your business to the next level. ALWAYS moving forward, no matter what. You’re confident, charismatic, resourceful, unattached, mysterious, somewhat unavailable, funny, there to add value, you end the conversation first and leave them wanting more. Which then leads them to chase you! It’s like a tractor beam pulling them in.

How would you apply abundance mindset in a closed setting, like a small town or university?

No matter what the circumstances are, you attract all the right people, hot women, etc. That has to be your story. ex: “All 7 of the hot women here are attracted to me ONLY.” “Every hot chick at this school/in town is attracted to me.” “All the hot women show up everywhere I go.” The key is to rewrite your belief about your circumstances and instead of focusing on the lack of hot women (or women in general) focus on how the regular scarcity rules don’t apply to you. Wherever you go, there they are. They just show up where you are. If you go to a bar and there are only 3 chicks and 17 men, all three checks are attracted to you and ignore the other 17 guys. New women are always moving here or attending the university, etc.

A big thanks to Brent and for everyone who submitted questions via PM and via thread!