The r/GetSuave Codex
The topic of GetSuave is widespread, pertaining to building a naturally attractive, confident, fun, stylish lifestyle - think James Bond but without all the bullets.
Introduction
The topic of GetSuave is widespread, pertaining to building a naturally attractive, confident, fun, stylish lifestyle - think James Bond but without all the bullets.
r/GetSuave was a subreddit founded in 2015 to help men (and women!) build the kind of lives they wanted to live. Its founder, u/champagnehouse, helped countless men with his advice, before mysteriously disappearing off the internet, followed by his triumphal return.
When r/GetSuave closed its doors in 2020, the nearly 20k members and countless more lurkers lost access to the collected wisdom of u/champagnehouse. This Codex is a backup of the most important posts from the sub, preserved by one of the original maintainers.
This is still very much a work in progress, as posts are saved, categorized, and republished.
How Do I Start?
You can start with the old subreddit rules to get a feel for what this place is (and isn’t). Once you’ve familiarized yourself, read through the most essential articles below, organized into a rough order.
The Codex
Inner Confidence Series
- Inner Confidence, Introduction
- Inner Confidence, Part I: Know What You Want
- Inner Confidence, Part II: Visualization
- Inner Confidence, Part III: Affirmation
- Inner Confidence, Part IV: Odds and Ends
Building a Suave Mindset
- Charisma: The Art of Being Cool and Making People Happy
- Social Proof: The Key to Charisma and Attraction
- A Primer on Abundance and Scarcity Mentalities
- How to Build a Strong Reality and Frame of Mind
- Live in Your Reality, Not Hers
- The Power of Being Normal
- The Difference Between Being Normal and Being “Too Funny”
- Don’t Hesitate
- How a Suave Man Handles Rejection
Attracting Beautiful Women
- Attracting Beautiful and Exceptional Women, Introduction
- Attracting Beautiful and Exceptional Women, Part I: Attitude
- Attracting Beautiful and Exceptional Women, Part II: Frame
- Attracting Beautiful and Exceptional Women, Part III: Lifestyle
Looks and Style
- Looks and Style - Introduction
- Basic Style Rules
- A Crash Course on Men’s Style and Clothing
- The Efficient, Comprehensive Morning Hygiene Routine
- Fix Your Posture
- How To Be More Masculine, Starting Today
Social Hobbies (or, be a guy worth knowing)
- 90% of Your Social Problems Can Be Solved by Meeting A Lot More People
- The Simple Guide to Meeting and Making New Friends
- Social Hobbies: Make Your Life More Interesting and Meet New People Along the Way
- Fun, Exciting Hobbies That Make People Say “I Wish I Could Do That!”
- Hosting a Regular Party or Group Outing
- The Carpe Diem Factor
Party Hosting 101
- Everything You Need in a Home Bar for Less Than $100
- Behind The Bar
- The Newb’s Guide to Common Alcoholic Beverages
- The Morning After
What To Do When…
- WTDW Other Men Hit On Your Date, or Your Date Abandons You
- WTDW They’re Not That Into You
- WTDW Going Out Alone
- Want a Personal Stylist? What To Do If You Have Money But No Sense Of Style
Lifestyle Resources
- The Pocket Guide to Interior Design
- Cool Stuff For Your Living Space
- Cool Stuff To Have In Your Car
- Items to Always Have On You
- Automate Your Life and Let Machines & Software Do Most Of The Work
Inspiration
- Suave Example: Craig Ferguson
- Exclusive Q&A with Brent Smith
- Videos, Music & Inspiration (Old Thread)
Reading List
- Essential and Recommended Reading List
- Notes on Dale Carnegie’s “How To Win Friends and Influence People”, Part I
- Notes on Dale Carnegie’s “How To Win Friends and Influence People”, Part II
- Notes on Nick Sparks’ “How To Hold a Conversation Like a Man”
- Notes on Nick Sparks’ “How To Approach Anyone”