Looks and Style Hub

How attractive are you?

Go ahead, I’ll wait…

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It was a trick question.

A better question is, how attractive can you be?

The truth is that while there’s a limited amount you can do to enhance your attractiveness, you can do a lot more to make yourself attractive than most people realize. Attractiveness is MALLEABLE, gentlemen. Yes, your genetics and bone structure play a major role in how attractive you are. But you still have a lot under your control.

If you want to, you can be:

• Ripped as hell
• Well-groomed and clean
• Stylish and wear flattering clothes

Difficult? Maybe. Possible for virtually everyone? Yep.

The very men who complain that the rules of dating are “be attractive and don’t be unattractive” likely put in the absolute minimal effort to be as attractive as they can. This makes no sense. If you believe that your attractiveness is the sole reason you have dating problems (it’s not), why wouldn’t you max out on your attractiveness? Max out, guys. Max the fuck out.

Don’t believe me? Guys like Tom Brady were born on the cover of GQ, right? Well, compare doofus 2000-era Tom Brady to the Tom Brady of today.

Yeah, yeah, he’s rich, he can afford nice clothes and a stylist, yada yada yada. Whatever. All of the world’s style, fitness, and grooming knowledge is available at your fingertips. You have no excuse not to max out.

So you’re not as tall as Tom Brady? Boo-friggin-hoo. All you need to concern yourself with is MAXING OUT.

Fitness

Ugly men of the world, at the very least, you can be a “but-his-face.” Everything good…but his face.

But everyone should be maxing out their physical appearance. Take this quote to heart:

“No man has the right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training. It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable.” -Socrates

If you aren’t fit as fuck, you are plum not living up to your Earthly potential. You were given a body, and you’re not taking care of it. What does that say about you?

Of course, /r/getsuave isn’t here to reinvent the fitness wheel. What we’ll be concerned about here is getting the maximum results for the least amount of effort. That’s not to be lazy, but to wipe out the need for redunant activities and be as efficient as possible. We’re building a suave lifestyle here. /r/fitness is that-a-way.

To be as efficient as possible, we’ll explore two things:

• Diet. The most important factor here, generally following a no-nonsense approach of intermittent fasting (difficult but simple; we like simple) and low-carb. More on this to come!
• Optimal exercise. You’re not going to be a treadmill bunny. You’re going to seek out heavy things and life them, you’re going to work out in intermittent high-intensity bursts, and you’re going to include cardio if you can fit it in. Remember: we’re after efficiency. More on this to come as well.
• Sleep. The magic elixir. Expect posts on optimal sleeping habits.

GetSuave Posts

• Fix Your Posture

Resources and Websites

• /r/fitness - including the fitness Wiki
• /r/keto or /r/paleo or /r/lowcarb
• /r/leangains

Hygiene and Grooming

If you can’t be tall, good-looking, or anthing remotely in the realm of attractive, you can always be clean and well-groomed. It’s merely a matter of effort. hygiene and grooming, like fitness, come about as a result of the habits you establish for yourself on a day-to-day basis.

Here are the bare-minimum habits you need to have:

• Daily showering or bathing. Non-negotiable. Some days you should shower/bathe more than once, especially after working out.
• Brushing and flossing. Brush twice daily, floss once. Cure bad breath and keep your teeth clean.
• Keep a face routine. Nothing’s less suave than having enormous zits or some other unsightly nonsense that’s under your control. Inspect your face daily, including looking to see whether you should groom or not. More about face routine in a subsequent post.
• No unibrow. If you have to shave off the hairs between eyebrows, do it.
• Trimmed finger and toenails. At all times.
• Keep your bed clean. Wash your sheets every 1-2 weeks, and duvet cover as well. Spending 8 hours in stank only to wash for two minutes in the morning is a recipe for ineffective showers.
• Shave, or keep a well-kempt beard. I’m not going to tell you whether you should be clean-shaven, stubbly, or have a beard or not…but never, never, never be a neckbeard. If you want to be a mountain man with an unkempt beard, head over to /r/beards for advice, because that goes outside the realm of /r/getsuave

GetSuave Posts

• The Efficient, Comprehensive Morning Hygiene Routine

Resources and Websites

• EffortlessGent.com. He does a good job at hitting the basics while keeping it simple.
• Effortless Gent’s guide to skin care (ignore the “pores” nonsense)
• Effortless Gent’s guide to hair care
• Effortless Gent’s Guide to shaving
• Shaving a beard on the jaw line Basic neckbeard prevention

Style and Fashion

The quickest way to look suave is to dress like it.

Of course, there’s /r/malefashionadvice for this and they can help you…somewhat. I personally think they err on the side of more feminine looks. But they also take the time to teach you some basic wardrobes, which is what our focus will be on here.

Plainly put, we want versatile suave clothes that will work in a variety of situations. A well-fitting blazer, for example, can take you just about anywhere, which makes it a wise investment.

There will be plenty more to say about style and fashion, but here are the principles you’ll want to adhere to:

• The suave man would rather overdress than underdress. Don’t try to overdress, but if you have to err on one side, that’s the side to do it on. It’s better to make other people wonder if they underdressed rather than underdressing yourself.
• Look for items that yield a high return on investment. Frugality doesn’t mean being cheap. Buying one good item that you can wear all the friggin time for a little more money is going to keep you looking good.
• Fit, fit, fit. It’s all about fit. George Clooney doesn’t wear baggy-ass clothes to the red carpet, and you won’t wear baggy-ass clothes to your next party. If you don’t understand fit, I’ll link to an MFA guide.

GetSuave Posts

• A Crash Course on Men’s Style and Clothing

Resources and Websites

• /r/malefashionadvice
• /r/frugalmalefashion
• Building the basic wardrobe - Male Fashion Advice
• How clothes should fit - Male Fashion Advice